the art of being happy

Girlfriend belongs in the trash

The only place Girlfriend magazine should be seen is crushed up in the garbage bin. It has no place on the shelves if it continues to ignore the research that girls who are readers of the magazine HATE themselves! That they are developing eating disorder, low self-esteem, are dieting and want to change the way they look, because what they look like isn't what they see in the magazine. below is a link to Melinda Tankard Reist's website where she posts the results Girlfriend magazine received from a survey asking their readers how they felt about their appearance. Isn't it funny that they would of expected to receive those results? i mean how is it possible not to when all they talk about is " The #1 Body Mistake we're all making" "6 things you need to tell a boy...." Now i know that Girlfriend is not the worst magazine on the shelf and i would LOVE to see pretty much every magazine in the trash but what disturbs me the most about Girlfriend and Dolly is that they are aimed at young girls who are developing, discovering themselves, trying to find out what those weird body changes mean and what happens when you start dating boys... you'd hope that adults would give better advice than a step by step guide on how to perform oral sex. Should a 12 year old really be encouraged to perform sexual acts? Really responsible girlfriend. You're really doing a great job. 

http://melindatankardreist.com/2012/04/girlfriend-body-image-survey-dire-findings/

what's stopping you.....

What is it that is stopping you from going against the flow. making a change and standing up against you know isn't right. 

be wise...protect your eyes

now don't get me wrong i love good movies, art, entertaining shows etc... and i get so inspired by all these things and i find myself walking away from a movie replaying all the scenes in my head or flicking through images in my mind i have seen through out the day. And as i doze off to sleep everything i have been exposed to that day swims through my thoughts and sometimes makes it way into my dreams. Now if those images, movies and tv shows are of crime, evil doings, hatred, abuse, highly sexualised acts of provocative ways to dress. Then thats what is going to be constantly playing through my head. And unfortunately the world we live in is inundated with more of these things than the beautiful, fruitful things that are sooo good for the soul!

We are seeing more and more studies that prove that girls who are exposed to magazines, tv shows, movies and music videos that emphasize the fact that you MUST look a certain way to be noticed, to get the boy, to succeed, to be happy, are developing eating disorders, have poor self-esteem, hate the way they look and want to change it, poor academic performances and self harm..just to name a few. These are the effects we are seeing in our young girls, and with the boys they too are struggling with self-esteem issues, but they are also battling against a world of false sexual pleasure, false manhood and a false idea of how a man should treat a woman. The images they are exposed to in pornography destroy their innocence, groom them as sexual predators and also allow them to develop sexually in their mind, hearts and souls in a way that is not pure! Now isn't it so important to keep check on what we allow our eyes to see. I used to care what people thought if i didn't want to watch a certain program or if i felt too uncomfortable to watch a sex scene in a movie. But i've stopped caring now. i know it is more important to protect my mind and my heart than it is to sit through a stupid tv show or a movie. because really is it that important? is it really the end of the world if you never see Watchmen! even though it's meant to be soooooo good! and even though it only had one really bad sex scene in it, i would of much preferred to never of seen the movie than expose myself to that. I don't know call me a prude or whatever you want, i don't really care. cause i would much prefer to put my head down at night without having random people flashing through my head or have a violent dream and a restless sleep because i just watched a show about rape and murders.

whether you realise it or not what you watch follows you long after the program has finished. so be wise...protect your eyes.

on another planet

my apologies... i have been on the planet of assessments lately, hence the lack of posts. Thank you to all that have shown support of my blog. It's really encouraging to hear that other people are passionate about change as well. If ever anyone has something they would like to share, i am more than happy to post on your behalf. just shoot me an email. i'll be posting again soon.x